Wednesday, March 4, 2009

Solomon's Passionate and Consuming Love for God and His Woman

Well Covenant Groupies,

When it comes right down to it people, nothing can ever properly prepare you to read and absorb Song of Solomon. Recently, Kevin and I spent time with friends discussing some Marriage Matters: romance, conflict resolution, little foxes and eternal flames as it appears in this beautiful song. It was such an amazing experience to hear God speak about His aggressive and intentional love for His people, Christ and His Bride and the virtuous love between man and woman.

As I studied for our gathering, I was exhilarated by the passionate and consuming love these two had for one another. After studying, Kevin said to me, and I quote, “a brother gotta’ step up his game.” In no uncertain terms, that’s what this book unveils to you.

I think far too many people take this book lightly. It has the power to transform a couple. However, I believe literally what my pastor shared this past Sunday, and that is: you cannot go before God, for any reason, if you’re resistant to being changed - really changed. In other words, you can’t approach this book, or any book in the Bible for that matter frivolously. There’s got to be a desire for betterment; God’s betterment, no matter how much it hurts or requires of you.

Does your love of God, your spouse and your marriage mean more to you than your comfort?

When we worked on The Bible Experience, Denzel and Pauletta Washington read the entire book of Song of Solomon to one another. It was actually super sexy. If I can get my hands on the footage, I'll add it later. In the meantime, I've included an interview where they spoke about their experience reading this book.

Let me know your thoughts

Monday, March 2, 2009


In your marriage, have you been more God-centered or spouse centered? Example: Have you been more concerned with bringing God's Kingdom into your home and the life of your spouse or have you been more concerned with changing your spouse?

Focus On Marriage Simulcast Conference

Hey Marriage Groupies,

So sorry for the long delay. I have been so swamped and blogging was the last thing I could muster up the strength to do. This, however, is something I must share.

This past Saturday, Kevin, Yadira (our really good friend and mother of our God-son Josiah) and I went to an all-day marriage conference that was simulcast in about 500 churches. Created by Focus on the Family Ministries, “Focus on Marriage: Seeing Your marriage through the Eyes of God” was shown to over 70, 000 people; couples and singles were engaged by the wonderful teachings of Gary Thomas author of “Sacred Marriage“ (To date my favorite book on the Covenant of marriage), Gary Smalley author of “Change Your Heart Change Your Life“, Beth Moore author of “Believing God“, Del Tackett author of “Truth Project“, and John Trent author of “The 2 Degree Difference.”

We know of and truly admire the two “Gary’s”, but we weren’t familiar with the other three. WHAT AN AMAZING RIDE! These five speakers, teachers, apostles - whatever you choose to call them were raw, transparent, visual and completely thorough. We walked out of there wanting more for our marriage and one another.

We covered everything from: Bringing the Kingdom in your home, being God-centered instead of spouse-centered, submission being the ability for women learning to duck so God can hit the husband, the divinity of our marriage relationship to beliefs and their power to influence us towards God’s will or the enemy’s will. Whoa!!! It was refreshing to hear perspectives from people married everywhere from 25 to 45 years.

If they do this again, and I’m sure they will, please find a local church and go. You will not leave there as when you came. With an open mind, heart and eyes, the power that only God can give and the willingness to be transformed, you won’t regret it.

There are no videos up of the conference yet, but as soon as they're available, I post them. It's an experience like no other.

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